This lovely anon asked me why I hated Chair, and a couple of other people too, so I felt the need to make a full rant about it, so please, take your time to read if you want to :) This is my honest opinion. It has basically nothing to do with Dair, though.
I was a huge Chuck/Blair fan in seasons one and two. S1!Chair was everything you could want in a couple. She was the first thing to ever open his eyes to something completely new, something that he thought he didn’t need, and he was the sweet escape of a life full of broken dreams and rules. Their banter and their dynamic was incredible and I cheered for them to the bone.
When S2!Chair came - all hot and angsty - some little things started to annoy me - mostly the dialogue - but I still cried over I love you so much, it consumes me and other so called epic!lines they shared. Their scene in 2x13 will forever be one of my favorite Gossip Girl scenes - so much symbolism. Chuck Bass is just a broken boy and the Queen of the UES takes him in her arms and tries to fix the one thing she knows belongs to her, in the end of the day.
What made me start disliking Chuck/Blair was S3 and what consolidated my dislike was also S3, but in a rewatch. The first time I’ve watched S3 episodes, I still loved CB, but I didn’t like Blair at the time (at least not as much as I do now) and I was too deep in my OTP happening that I couldn’t really pay attention to them. Sad, but true, their relationship for me was nothing compared to what was happening between Nate/Serena (and Jenny/Damien, which was so interesting at the time! Still sad over them tbh).
I squealed with CB like any fan in their 3x02 bed scene. I felt that Chuck did a great thing for Blair in 3x03(04? Don’t remember) making the paparazzi ask about her. I felt so bad for Chuck in 3x06 when she schemed against him. I loved how he stood by her against Serena in 3x08. I loved them in 3x11 and the perfection that was 3x12 - I felt for them so much, the first time I watched these episodes. 3x13 foward I was too focused on NS happening, I agree, but it was 3x13 the first episode that made me feel like a stranger to CB. At the time, I didn’t know why. And by the end of the season I was annoyed they were back together - and I could never like them again.
Rewatching S3 and S4 (I hardly rewatch S4’s first half because of DS, but when I did, I focused on Chuck/Blair) I realized why I couldn’t like CB anymore since 3x13. Here it is:
1. The “Epicness”
This is the main reason, and honestly, I don’t think I’d dislike Chuck and Blair that much if it wasn’t for it. I hate. Hate. Hate. Hate. All of Chuck and Blair’s dialogue since 3x13.
The writing was lazy and irritating and it tried to shove us down some sort of epicness that it’s fake and forced, to be honest.
Here are some examples: “You and I are magnetic”, “The pull is as undeniable as ever”, “No one understands what we have”, “I destroyed everything I ever loved”, “What we have is a great love, all-consuming, no matter what we do, how much we fight, it will always pull us in”, “What is mere happiness in front of that”, and DON’T GET ME STARTED with the pre-piano!sex dialogue, “There is a fiery pit of hate burning inside ready to explode”, “Every nerve in my body is eletrified by hatred”. REALLY? NO ONE talks like this. No one. In the most dramatic Draco/Hermione fanfiction I’ve ever read, I could never see such shitty dialogues.
I will never like any couple (with one exception in TVD) that feel the NEED to TELL us how epic, magnetic, destined they are. True epic ships, they show us how epic they are, they don’t tell us. Chuck/Blair epicness is all telenovela, full of drama and ups and downs, and it just feels like being forced down our throats. There’s not even a little bit of reality and I feel like they’re saying: WE’RE SO EPIC. SHIP US.
Well, sorry, no.
2. It’s always about Chuck.
Chuck and Blair’s relationship is about Chuck, and this, as a girl, bothers me a lot. I hear your judgement, Chair fan, but I must say that you’re wrong. I do like Chuck. I love Ed Westwick with passion, I love his acting and Chuck Bass has been one of my favorite characters since day one. However, I don’t like Chuckand Blair’s relationship because it turns out to be all about him.
She should be proud to be Blair Waldorf because he is Chuck Bass and he loves her. She should be proud to be herself because he loves her, not because she is amazing or whatsoever.
She said: 3 words, 8 letters. Say it, and I’m yours. It seems to me that the moment he said he loved her, she became his. His, possesively speaking. She should be here for him always, she is supposedto be there for him and help him and she is supposed to do whatever it’s needed for him, because he said those 3 words and now she is his.
In my S3 rewatch I realized how sad it was that in order to be there for Chuck, Blair should give up everything she wanted. He was having trouble with his mother (3x13 again) issues and she was trying to impress the La Table Ellitaire guy, and she asked for his help again and again and he didn’t do one thing to help her. In the moment she decided to help herself, he showed up and said: “Blair, I have issues, but I don’t wanna be on your way. But I have issues, so many issues.” He knew she would give up on whatever she was doing to herself to help her. It’s so sad how he kept manipulating her even without noticing it.
And then it starts to get worse and worse. Blair cancels herself, she actually fades who she is to stand by him and all he is going through. Every scene she, the female lead of the show has, from 3x13 to 3x17, is about Chuck. And rewatching 3x17 is so, so, so sick. Yes, I am bringing the IP thing back. It’s so sick how he played her and manipulated her to go there and sleep with his uncle, who once tried to rape his stepmother, in order to win.
The Gossip Girl writers may be the worst, but when Chuck tried to rape Jenny and Serena in the pilot, it was their way of saying to us that this character would do anything to get what he wanted. It culminated with the IP thing. It was disgusting, people. It was absolutely terrible. I could never ship CB again after that. It was so sad that Blair came back to him and stepped over herself all over again for him, and still, he proclamed war against her in S4.
What makes me even angrier is that Chuck always made all the decisions regarding to their relationship, because Blair is the weakest thing when it comes to them, and it’s sad. There’s no other word. Chuck and Blair’s relationship is nothing but sad, sick and twisted and it’s ok if you ship them knowing this and don’t try to glorify them as a great love. They are the personification of “Love the Way You Lie” and if you love them because of this, it’s your choice, but I could never. I was so glad when the writers realized what their relationship did to Blair and made us aknowledge that she knows she lost herself because of this.
3. Blair is not that good to Chuck.
Not because she doesn’t want or try to be. She did cancel herself in order to help Chuck so many times and she did all she could for him. But she is not what Chuck needs. Chuck has psychological issues that need to be addressed. He is depressed and narcissistic and Blair just triggers these issues because of who she is.
Chuck has been through a depression since his father died (or didn’t… oh, the trolling in this show), even before, when he thought he’d killed his mother, and he doesn’t need epic love or anything. He needs treatment. He needs a psychiatrist and therapy and friends and family. He needs normality in his life before going through some ‘epic all consuming’ love.
That’s why I love Nate and Chuck’s relationship so much. It’s the hint of realism in Chuck’s life. They play basketball together, go to vacations, get high together, they talk and play pool like normal 22 year old people. On the contrary, Blair’s love for Chuck sufocates him, brings out his lust for games and manipulation. When they’re together, it’s all about being a “team” but not in the good way. They relate to each other like a chess game and it always has an agenda, and I don’t think that’s what Chuck needs. Chuck needs to be with someone that puts his feet on the ground, because it’s not that easy to be who he is and go through the stuff he goes.
I am extremely pleased that Nate is the one dealing with Chuck’s troubles lately, and hopefully they will keep it that way. Chuck could never find himself if Blair is in the picture, because their own personality is faded out because of the strength of their ‘all-consuming’ love.
I just want them to be happy, honestly.
But I don’t think Chuck or Blair can be happy with each other. They have shown us that they can’t. It’s not real, not normal, there’s so much drama that happiness is not one of the options.
If you ship them because of this, I can understand. I ship Draco and Hermione because of this, but I don’t think they could ever be good to each other. And I think the show has proven us this, again and again. Blair is finally finding herself. She said it so. She is finding who she is and how love - pure and simple love - is supposed to be.
Chuck needs to do it, too. He needs to find out what pure and simple love is. And I surely hope he does. But not with Blair.
Hope that answered you, anon ;)
Oh, yeah. I forgot. You should all read this article. It’s the best thing I’ve ever read about Chuck and Blair.